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A dream without a plan is just a wish. But a dream with a plan, with goals and steps - well now we're talking!

That's how dreams come true! I want to help everyone who is called to a big dream, make it their reality.

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Why have boundaries?

24/7/2015

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If you've ever read anything remotely new-agey, you'll have come across the buzz-word "boundaries". We're all meant to have them, identify them, work with them.

But in really simple terms - what are they, and why have them?

Last week I faced a number of challenges, in my personal and professional life. In past times, any one of the things that happened would have sent me into a spiral of coming undone. This time, I was able to get up, keep up, and move through. Why? Because of my boundaries.

So, using some of my own as examples, I wanna give you a quick download so you can work on identifying and strengthening your own boundaries.

1. What are they?
Well, pretty much like a physical boundary, what we are talking about are your limits. How far you will go - at work, in a relationship, for someone, everywhere. This can be how much you are willing to do, to share, to have done. They are your "do not cross" lines, your rules of engagement, the essential user manual for anyone interacting with you. Some examples that have helped me in the last week:

The people I work with are my collegues, not my friends. This boundary protects me emotionally at work, especially when the poop hits the fan as it did recently.
I am not responsible for anyone's relationships but my own - this is a huge one, for example in a family of origin conflict situation (or something, like, it was a friend, I mean, I don't know, stop looking at me like that :p)

2. Why have them?
In a word - protection. But don't get the wrong idea; this isn't about protecting you from everyone or about keeping to yourself. It's not selfish. Sometimes what you are protecting is your energy, so you can use it in other ways, with other people who will respect, enjoy or just plain need it more.

I'm a huge introvert, which means that my energy is drained by being around people. This means that I have boundaries about who I let into my space and for how long. Meanwhile I'm also kinda co-dependant with a big hero complex, so I have self-imposed boundaries about who and how I help.

Neither of these things are selfish - they both ensure that I am ready, willing and able to be there for the people I love when they really need me. And I also have the energy and drive left for the things I love and are important to me - like unicorns and rainbows and puppies :p

One of my favourite adages is - Give from your saucer, never from your cup.

Only giving the overflow and protecting your core energy requires strong boundaries.

What's really important to you? Where do you need to enforce some rules to protect those things? Is it time you started expanding your boundaries?

Can't wait to hear from you in the comments xo
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A love letter to podcasts

6/7/2015

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Dear Podcasts,
I just wanted to say thank you. You will never be able to understand (because you are data and not people) how much you have helped me over the last 18 months.

I love my friends and my family. They let me vent and vent, and they say all the right things. They love me and they support me. But sometimes, when in pain, I need to be alone.

But not all the way alone. Because at times of stress and heartache, completely alone can be far too noisy inside my head. Sometimes I want to be alone, but not alone with my thoughts. 

Cuddling my darling Suki and watching ridiculous movies or binge-watching TV series is great when the heartache and stress demons strike. For a while.

Eventually, though, there is still life to get on with. Housework to do, dogs to walk, gardening to get on top of.

And that's where you really shine, my darling podcasts.

Thank you for being the friends in my ears when I needed to be outside of my head but not quite in the world with other people. 

Thank you for helping me get to sleep and for keeping me company when getting ready in the mornings when I really wanted to pull the covers over my head and disappear.

Thank you for making me crack up like a crazy person in the park while walking my dogga.

Comedy Film Nerds, Wil Anderson's Wilosophy and TOFOP, and Dave and Gareth, I mean Gary on The Dollop - thank you. From the bottom of my bruised but still carrying on heart. Thank you.

Love, Laura.
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