What do I mean by that?
Yes, I mean believe in yourself. Of course I mean trust that you can do anything you truly choose to do, that you absolutely want to do.
But more than that, I mean cheer yourself on. Really get your “rah rah, go go go!” on!
When do cheerleaders cheer for their sports team? When they kick a goal?
Well, yeah, sure.
But also when they don’t. When they miss. When they run onto the ground, before they play. While they play.
And my favourite – when someone who has screwed up, fallen, missed a shot or lost the ball gets back up and keeps playing.
You might have an amazing team of people around you who cheer you on everyday – I really hope you do! – but regardless of if you do or you don’t, the most important cheerleader you will ever have, is YOU.
You are the one you believe. And your internal monologue and subconscious are the biggest tools you have to either get you to your dream, or keep you from it, forever.
Here are my tested and true ways to get in touch with your inner cheerleader, to fluff up your pompoms and to build and maintain the habit of cheering yourself through every day.
Exactly that – look in the mirror, smile at yourself and say “Holy guacamole, you’re awesome”.
Do it NOW!
You know how when a really cool character comes on screen in a movie, they have their own theme tune? Find yours, and then get it on your iPod and listen to it before you do anything a bit tricky.
Find your own “Eye of the Tiger”. That song that makes you feel like you can take on the world. Play it loud and bust out your moves.
Then you also need your celebration songs – those songs that make you dance, as in you physically CAN’T NOT dance when you hear them (even at the post office or chemist, you tap your foot!). Play them ALL the time, adding self-fives and wha-hoos.
Next time you’re laying in bed, snoozing your alarm and telling yourself to get up, rather than dropping into bargaining (“if I get up now I’ll have time to buy a coffee at the train station”) jump into cheering instead.
Cheerleaders at a football game are never on the sidelines saying “Score a goal and then tomorrow you can play Xbox all day!!!!”.
They say “Go, go, you can do it, you’re awesome, whaaaaa hooooo!!!!”.
So take a leaf out of their playbook, and cheer yourself on. And then when you get up, freaking punch the air, wave your pom-poms and say it outloud “Yehaw, go me!! I can do it! I’m the (wo)man!!”.
Every time you catch a “I can’t do it” thought, replace it with a “sure I can! Look at me go, I’m gonna do my best!”.
Now no, I’m not saying be “up yourself” or full of it. No one needs you to get a big head about yourself. But here’s the fact: you’re great. You really are. And you do things really well, ALL THE TIME!
We’re pretty good at getting down on ourselves constantly during the day. How often do you tell yourself something nasty? From tiny things to big screw-ups, we are often the first to critique our own actions.
How about being the first to cheer, instead?
Here’s a way to think about it. You spill your tea and think “argh, what an idiot”. How about the other 10 times that week where you made, carried and drank your tea without spilling it. Did you even notice?
So next time you sit down with your tea, tell yourself “good one, nice tea”!
When you get out the car, and you’re between the two white lines and close to the entrance, celebrate it. Say “Hey high-five, me – awesome park!”.
Seems like nothing, right? But seriously, cast your mind back to the very first time you sat in the drivers seat of a car. How utterly sh** scared were you? And how bloody amazing is it that now you just jump in the car and drive?
The point is you need to make yourself aware of all the great things you are capable of doing. Because then next time you try something new, rather than having fear, you’re going to have this whole library of things you know you already do well. And hey, I bet there was a time when you couldn’t do almost all of them.
When a car racer goes off the track and his car explodes in a fireball, the commentators refer to it as “A Spectacular Crash”.
Celebrate your spectacular crashes.
Congratulate yourself for how you handle a negative experience, applaud yourself for trying when you fail, praise yourself for having the guts to F-up and keep going, and oh please goddess, howl with laughter when you just make an idiot of yourself!
Yes, failure is only a lack of learning from your mistakes. Yes, trying and falling is better than doing nothing. Yes yes yes, there are a million clichés as well as genuinely great teachings on viewing the topic of “failure”.
But when it comes to cheering – take a moment to celebrate the fall! One day you’ll look back and laugh at it – make that day today!
OK – your turn now.
From the top of my cheer pyramid to yours,