Then, we had a strategy session where we started to map out the plan to get us to those dream lives. Our Dream Strategies.
I wanted to share some of what we talked about, because it demonstrates a really important point that I base all my coaching on – with a solid plan, you can get anywhere.
We used my Dream Action Planner during our strategy session (if you don’t have it – grab it here!). On the surface, this tool seems to be only for the concrete “obvious” goals we have.
But the truth is this:
Every dream life is realized the same way.
Breaking our dreams down into steps – or tasks – makes them less scary, shows us how to take action TODAY, and (best bit) makes them come true!
Below I’ve given you three examples of the goals we dug out of our visions of our dream lives, including some of the actions and tasks we identified.
Each of these goals was identified during one-on-one coaching where we discussed the biggest difference between our right-now-self, and our dream Future self.
Action: enroll in a class and enjoy just being there – noticing with other people’s work is different – even better – than mine, but recognizing this does not make those people better than me.
- Research classes offered nearby
- choose a class
- attend first class
Action: Practice mindfulness of negative thoughts. When I begin to compare myself, notice the thoughts and let them go.
Action: Go out alone, to do something I truly enjoy. Each time I start to create stories about what people think about me being alone, remind myself that 1) chances are they are not judging me at all and 2) it doesn’t actually matter to me if they are.
Action: Research, buy/borrow and read parenting books and blogs. Include alternative and same-sex resources.
- Google search
- Speak with friends
- Amazon reviews
- Purchase books
Action: Go shopping and gently expand my wardrobe horizons. Try on lots of different things and see how I feel in them.
Action: Make a list of possible names for me – mumma, mummy, mum … etc and practice them to see how they “fit”.
Action: Schedule in time for myself every week – put it in my diary and make that date as important as all the stuff I do for other people.
- Make a list of self-care practices I would like to invest time in
- Schedule them into my diary for the next month
- Set an alarm or reminder on my phone
- Stick to it!
Action: Say “no” to something someone asks me to do each day for one week. Every time, remind myself that in saying “no” to others I am giving myself space to say “yes” to me.
Action: Journal every morning and each day write one thing that I love about myself and want to celebrate in the day.
So - I'd love to know your thoughts on this. And if you'd like to have a plan of your own, start with the Dream Action Planner. If you'd like some help getting your Goals as clear as my lovely clients did during our Retreat, you might like to think about working with me personally.
Love and light,