And it feels … amazing. Oh, and also scary as hell!
So it got me to thinking - how do you know when something scares you in the right way?
Here the the three questions I've come up with to decide if the scary opportunity in front of me is worth fighting through the fear:
1. What noise am I making about it (AKA how do I feel in my guts?)?
I'm a very emotive person, though not so much with words as with sounds. In my head, there is a clear distinction between the ARGH kind of scary (fear) and the EEEEEEPPP kind (excitement). If the terrifying thing I am considering doing is also making me very EEEEPPP (excited), then I just know I've got to do it.
2. How will I feel after I do this scary thing?
Am I going to feel like "I'm the Queen of the World, I can conquer anything", or more like "Oh G-bus, I'm so glad that's over let's never do it again". If it's the first thing, I'll push through. If it's the second - PASS! If I don't know, I'll move onto the next question.
3. How will I feel if I don't do it?
With this one, ya gotta be really honest with yourself. Because it can be super easy to think the answer is "everyone will think I'm a coward" or "everyone will think I'm so cool". Screw "everyone" (also side note: "everyone" doesn't CARE!). How will YOU feel? Most often, this is the question that really makes things clear for me. If I have any sense of "I'll feel I've missed a great opportunity", then it's pretty likely I'll take the leap.
So yeah, that's how I do it!
This week I saw something on TV (Chicago Fire, love it!) that I liked, and it stuck with me:
"Disappoint anyone... hell, disappoint everyone - but don't ever disappoint yourself."
Good words to live by, I think.