Now, in the past, I've written about when to take things off your to-do list. And I've written about celebrating, releasing and planning things from your lists.
Last week, in reviewing my 100 Things for 2015 List I was struck by a number of items that wouldn't be getting crossed off. These were rattling around in the back of my head as I continued with my holiday/planning retreat.
And just like that - as it tends to like to do - the Universe served me up some interesting ideas. Two, actually, and from two very different sources!
I did a major "life audit" when I turned forty, and I realized how many projects I had committed to in my head—such as learning German and becoming a good skier and learning to cook. Most remained unfinished, and many were not even started. Yet these countless incomplete projects drained my energy and diffused my attention. As soon as the file was opened, each one took a little bit of me away. It was very liberating to realize that I could "complete" a project by simply dropping it—by eliminating it from my to-do list. Why carry around this unnecessary baggage? That's how I completed learning German and becoming a good skier and learning to cook and a host of other projects that now no longer have a claim on my attention.
There are, in fact, a number of items in my 100 List that will receive (or have already received) this very treatment. Way back in June I made the declaration: I release the perfectionistic desire for completion so as to not diminish everything else I have and will accomplish this year.
But some other things just weren't going away as easily. At this point, I was sent an alternative method.
This one came in the form of comic book hero Jessica Jones, and a Netflix binge session.
The Big Bad in the season has the power of mind control. He makes people do all sorts of awful things. One such thing is when he tells Jones' bestie to kill herself.
What he actually says is "put a bullet in your head".
She knows she doesn't want to, but she also can't stop herself. She must do what he says. Quick thinking Jessica grabs a bullet and shoves it into Trish's mouth and slams her mouth shut.
"There. You did what he said. You followed his command".
It works, she's released. Brilliant.
Where it feels right, I'm going to simply cross things off and move on.
Where that's a little harder, I'll try the Superhero way. I mean, within my reality - there are no killers or bullets or mind control bad guys!
My decision to actively cultivate a cruelty free life recently has impacted a number of items on my list, and these are the ones I've been working on lately (I haven't had particularly massive changes of heart, it's not like I'm working from a place of "go big game hunting" or "visit local abattoir", so stay calm).
42. Go horse riding: Crossed off, easy, gone.
99. Visit an Interstate Zoo: Done - see there on the left? That's me, quickly jumping out of the car to snap a pic at the entrance to the Dubbo Zoo, which is along the highway I was taking home.
Try them both out, and then let me know in the comments below how they make you feel.